a little words of advice from onyeama vicente

Nothing in life is worth fighting for. Your best clothes is someone's rag,your account balance is someone's donation at a function, your girl friend/boy friend or fiance/fiancee' is someone's Ex. Every single prostitute you see in a hotel or on the street at night was at some point in time a virgin. So what is the squabble all about? Life is too small to feel bigger or better than anybody. We're all naked to death says Steve Jobs.  Nothing can save us from it. I hate to see people who Brag about wealth, beauty, intelligence, level of education, fame and material possessions. There's nothing you've achieved in life that no one else has never gotten. There's only one thing that is worth bragging which is "LIVE IN GOD ALMIGHTY". SO BE GOOD TO YOUR FELLOW MAN AND ALWAYS MAKE FRIENDS. Always remember that the people you trampled upon on your way up a ladder will be the same set of people you're likely to pass on your way down, so cause no problem for others because if you do, they'll become your very problem one day. Finally, even banana stems will one day become dried leaves. Pls don't be selfish , pass on to friends as we're all in one way or the other guilty.

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As a married woman, must my husband be my next of kin?

 As a married woman, must my husband be my next of kin?

My husband and I have been married for over a year now and I am about to put some of my money into a new business which requires I fill a form stating who my next of kin is. It's a lot of money and am skeptical about how these men can be. We are yet to have kids if not I would have put my child's name. I am thinking of putting in my brother's name but am still thinking if it's right. Must I put in my husband's name?

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what's the number one reason for failed marriages in nigeria

Is it, 1. Money problems, 2. Infidelity, 3, Lack of love, 4. Sex problems. 5, Communication problems

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a lesbian complaints

I would like to share my problem and hopefully get some good advice on this predicament I have found myself. I am 24 and grew up in a Christian home where going to church was the only recreational activity allowed in my house. My parents are pastors and they pastor a large pentecostal church in lagos. 

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how do I get rid of my chic

I want to get rid of my girlfriend but don't know how to go about it. I've been trying for the past eight months to end things up with her but she just does not get it. I have been throwing subtle signs but she's not picking them up. I invited her to the house when I knew another girl will be there but she didn't care she didn't break up with me

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from a very angry sister

Ewo! Choi. The curses were so much I had to edit some out..:-). From a female LIB reader

My sisters husband just sent her packing from their home. It will not be better for him and other useless men like him. After eight years and three children

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does love conquers all things in a relationship

Think with me for a second. Boy meets girl under the perfect lighting and sparks fly. The charm of boy is not understated as he subtly puts out hints of an amazing future together. A beautiful house with a garden full of peonies, kids, and pets (if you are into them) become all what girl dreams about. Girl falls hard and deep and let’s say boy does too. Then girl’s foul attitude or boy’s wandering eyes rears its head and ever so casually boy/girl brushes it aside because his/her eyes are already set on the prize of happily ever after.

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facts about risk taking

I was having a conversation with a friend one day and she told me this wonderful story. It taught me a vital lesson about risk taking. We are both present-serving corps (NYSC) members and I was telling her about a wonderful idea I had but that could not execute because I was thinking about some things. I had to eventually tell her I had been over-thinking. It was this that prompted her to share her story with me in hopes that I could learn something from it. I did, and I hope you can do so too (the story is written in her words):

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first things men notice about women

It is not strange that the woman’s body is mostly the first thing men take notice of when they meet a woman. A guy may fall in love with a woman’s beautiful heart and amazing character while they talk over the phone, but eventually change his mind when he meets her in person and she is completely not what he pictured. Some guys are however patient enough to want to shape her into what they want her to be but some are not willing to sweat it.

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love as an act of value

Love is Just Another Value - It is not enough that a man be born, he must learn to live. It’s not enough that a man should live; he must learn to love and master to bear the pain, thrill and excitement that comes with love. What can be more exhilarating than to be in love? Though one must also note that to give one’s heart, is not only to give that person the right to love you back but also the power to hurt as well. No matter how close or how emotionally connected we are with another person, to a large extent we still can never fully know and understand another person’s design, which predominantly structures why they behave the way they do, their motivations, belief system, philosophies, passions, dreams and goals. At best we can only derive an approximation based on assumption of their full thinking process.

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How to Clear Common Relationship Hurdles

They say that the most common relationship stumbling blocks occur when men and women don’t respond to each other properly, which can be remedied by educating yourself on how the opposite sexreally operates. Need help? In the following Q&A session, we got the goods from them on what makes both men and women truly tick — and how to break the breakup cycle for good.

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my boss has mouth odour,how do I tell him

I just got a job with an auditing firm with a fantastic pay. I love everything about my job except that my direct boss wants to chase me out of the office with his bad breathe. Its so bad. I can't even describe it. I have tried to cope within this two months I started but mehn....Kai.... its getting to me now. How can I respectfully tell him without getting myself thrown out of my job? I need your sensible advice please.

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Chris brown gives advice to men likes beating women

Chris Brown preaches against violence. He should do more of this. See another tweet after the cut...

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dear ovb readers my wife doesn't like our son.what do I do

From a OVB readers

I have three children with my wife. Two of our children are girls and the last who is just three years old is a boy but I have noticed that my wife treats him differently from his sisters. She's not patient with him and smacks him whenever he does something wrong instead of correcting him in a

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my chic has 13 boyfriends

The saying that don't ask except you really want to know is true because I regret asking my woman (now ex) how many lovers she has had. In a honest heart to heart the other day I asked her how many boyfriends she's had and she said four serious relationships. I assumed that was the number of men she has been with but she confessed she has slept with men she wasn't in relationships with. When I asked her how many men she has slept with she said 13. If she were 40, I'd be surprised but I will understand but she's just 26.

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when you have a harsh husband

For the past 2years .My husband nags about every little thing this days.He picks on anything I say. To the extent of me not being too free to discuss issues or normal conversations as husband and wife anymore. It all started like a joke. sometimes the thoughts that always comes to my mind is men and their stressful moment,i will just allow him to be. But right now the whole thing is making me go gaga.To put pictures of my friends like celebrating their birthdays or Wedding Anniversary with then via what's up or BB is a case. My own picture, OMG

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victim of human trafficking opens up

The experience of Ifekoya Adejoke is as harrowing as it is heart-breaking. Lured by a false promise of ‘greener pastures’ abroad, the young Nigerian ended up a merciless victim of human trafficking, chained to a bed in a dingy, dirty Libyan room and forced to sexually satisfy up to 30 men in a single night...

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story of a rape victim

Found this on The Nation, more women are sharing their rape stories. Keeping quiet should never be an option when raped because by keeping quiet, you will make other women victims. Please Speak Up. Read this lady's story below...

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my fellow ovb readers,my wife opens her breast in public when feeding our child,and it annoys me

My wife and I just had our first child together and as is expected, she must have to breastfeed the baby but the annoying thing is that she brings out her breast to breastfeed him

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a very sincere aadvice

I am writing this response because I feel we may just be near the change line we all desire to be. I will appreciate if you understand from the beginning of this article that I am not a supporter of any man that sets out to harass another- whether man or woman. I frown at cases of bully and oppression and as far as I understand myself, I am not an advocate of immorality.

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